Listen.

For some unknown reasons - OK lah actually the reason was quite apparent to me but I just didn’t wanna talk about it - I’ve been thinking of some issues related to ‘friends’ and ‘friendship’ lately.

I used to hang out with a huge group of friends when I was in secondary school, and a few years after that. I consider them my good friends, and of course within the group, there were a few which I looked at them as my close friends. Like most teenagers/youngsters, we liked to hang out at our favourite places, do our favourite activities together, and we celebrated each other’s birthday. It was fun. And it was good knowing that I somehow ‘belonged’ to a group. More like a peer-thingy.

Many things happened in life at that time. All forces somehow lead me to grow towards a different path as compared to the rest of the group. While they enjoyed going out in a huge group to crowded places, I somehow preferred - and still prefer - to have small and quiet chit-chat sessions with one or two at a time. I guess I just never really like karaoke-ing or sitting at Starbucks or Coffee Bean watching people walking by. Furthermore, I don’t work in a cubicle and I honestly couldn’t get myself into their topics at all.

But I know very well that all these doesn’t mean that I don’t treat them as friends whom I treasured. I know that I may not see them all the while, but I’d like to try and make sure I know what’s happening with them. I would also make sure to give a hand when they need help. I know it very well that they were the ones who built me, and accompanied me when I was lost.

And yet, there are people who don’t look at it the same way. Not hanging out with them means more like no longer a close friend to them. I didn’t bother to explain myself. But to be honest, it was so much of disappointment to hear about.

I know that I couldn’t possibly please everyone. I’ve chosen to please myself, instead of pleasing the ones who don’t bother to treasure. I hope I’ve made the right choice.

Tags: Friend, Friendship, Peer